Tuesday, September 27, 2016

Sophie's Grand Arrival

First off, Amanda is absolutely, incredible! My love for her is as deep as it gets.

Wanted to take some time to write down how Sophie Jessica Rosenhouse made her way into the world.

Well, she took her sweet time, not caring what her "due date" was. She didn't see the eviction notice in the womb, I guess.

After having Chinese food for dinner Saturday, it turned out four days of extra stay would be long enough for our little girl. Amanda woke me up around 1:15 AM.

"I think my water broke, I'm gonna call the doctor," she said.

She'd been timing her contractions, and it felt like they'd become more consistent and intense. The doctor told us to come in.

With our "go bag" already in the car, we made quick calls to our parents and drove to the hospital. Whether it was a false alarm or not, we didn't know yet, but still, I knew this was the right move either way.





We got to the hospital around 2 AM and after some tests and contraction measurements, the nurse told us we wouldn't be leaving without a baby! "Okay, it's really go time," I thought to myself.

Watching Amanda go through the pain of contractions was tough. I felt helpless, even though I was trying my best to comfort her.

Thankfully, the anesthesiologist arrived quickly and the epidural made Amanda feel much, much better. My parents got to the hospital and wished us well, before we took naps, knowing Amanda would really need her strength for what was to come.

Amanda's Aunt Sharon arrived around 8:15 with a beautiful baby mum the Rudes made. See, I love the mums!




Well, around 9:45ish, the doctor came in to check on Amanda and told us she was ready to start pushing!

Now here's what I didn't realize, a lot of the helping work would be done by the labor nurse and myself, with of course Amanda as the driving force. With us holding her legs, Amanda would make three, ten second pushes, each time helping the baby move further and further down.

Around 10:30, the nurse (who by the way was wearing a Texans shirt because it was Sunday-I'm sure JJ Watt would love that) predicted the baby would be out by 11! As I jokingly said to Amanda, "it's less time than a John Oliver show to go."

A series of pushes later and then it all became very real. We could start to see the head!

Side note: for the longest time during pregnancy, my plan was to stay "north of the border" during labor and delivery. Well, that plan quickly went out the door, and in hindsight, I'm glad it did. Seeing this all was helpful for me in comforting and motivating Amanda. Also, there literally is nothing else like it.

Back to the story. Amanda was doing great: good breathing, then pushing, some quick chewing of ice chips and then back to breathing, pushing, repeat. More and more, the baby's head was showing.

Around 10:50 or so, the nurse brought the doctor in. Unfortunately, Dr. Pinell, who was our doctor throughout the pregnancy, was out of town Saturday and Sunday (Murphy's Law some might say).  Fortunately, his partner, Dr. Maccatto, is just as well liked around the hospital.

The doctor came in, and quickly he was in position, saying "push, push, push" in his interesting accent.

Now, here comes the big moment, and it went in a flash.  The doctor said on her next series of pushes, our baby would be out. That turned out to be true!

Finally, I realized why people had been saying the doctor would "catch the baby."  First, the baby's head squeezed out with her face pointing in my direction, then the rest of her body just seemed to slide out into the world!

Amanda was crying tears of joy, and I was right there with her.

There she was, a baby, quickly cleaned off in a matter of seconds. I cut the umbilical cord, and the baby was brought to her mom's chest.

Through the tears, Amanda said "come here Sophie," and it all came together in an instant.  She was born at 11:04 AM, Sunday, September 25, 2016. All in all, from telling me her water broke until the birth, it was about 10 hours.


From there it was a bit of a whirlwind. Amanda was so tired and immediately my thoughts started going into more of, how do I protect her, more than being focused on the baby.


We called her parents and let them know they were officially now grandparents to Sophie Jessica Rosenhouse. They liked how the name was easy to say. From there, I walked with a pep in my step to the waiting area to tell my parents and Bonkie. An added benefit, my brother Evan was already on the phone with them. I made a call to my brother David and then returned to Amanda.


She was focusing on the first hour, skin to skin time with Sophie, as this is the encouraged way to help Amanda bond and start creating milk.

We moved into the postpartum room. I don't want to write all about this part, mostly because at first I was kind of disappointed. It really felt like we were brought to the room and then basically told, "call us if you need us."

We didn't get too much advice or instruction on how to do anything really. I felt lost and totally unsure of myself. Some might say, welcome to parenting, but that wasn't a feeling I enjoyed.

As the day went on, we figured out the system a bit more, and again the protection feeling to get Amanda recovering well was very active.

We slept when we could and then started a new day. "Remember, one day at a time," I kept thinking to myself.

The rest of the time in the hospital continued with more ups and downs. That's just gonna be the way it goes for a while (or maybe forever). In the end, we'll just do our best to act in love and make the choices that feel right.


Thank you to everyone for the love and support you've given. Having the baby is really a blessing, and it will continue to shape our lives going forward :)

-- Sophie's daddy

Monday, August 22, 2016

Less than a month until Baby Girl Rosenhouse

Well, it’s official - we’re now less than a month away from the due date for Baby Girl Rosenhouse.

Each day we get closer, everything becomes more real.  For the first half of the pregnancy, my mind wasn’t all consumed by it, if we’re being truthful.  I know for Amanda, it was much more present. Then again, she was the one growing a baby inside of her!  Since entering the last trimester, the mental preparation, nervousness and dreams have all moved to the forefront personally. 

Just wanted to write out a few thoughts before the world changes forever.

It’s been beautiful to watch Amanda during the pregnancy.  She’s handled it incredibly well, and even in the tough times, our connection has been strong. 



As far as our preparations, I like to say if we want our apartment to be 90% ready and organized on the day the baby comes (we hear you can never be fully prepared), right now we’d only be about 30%.  There’s a lot of work to be done, but each day we seem to be accomplishing something that will hopefully make our lives easier later on. 

We’ve now started going to the doctor once a week per his request. It’s nothing out of the norm, just the way he likes to do it.  Dr. Pinell has so far been excellent for us, calmly answering all our questions and getting us ready for the big day.  Each time, he does a sonogram so he can check the heartbeat.  Side note: The two most memorable were the first time when we heard the heart beat for the first time, and the second was when he told us it’d be a girl.  I’ll always remember holding Amanda’s ankle and seeing her cry with happiness when she realized it’d be a girl. Of course, me being a weeper, I quickly had to wipe my eyes.

Parenting prep wise, we’re midway through a Jewish Baby University class we’re taking through the Federation in Houston.  So far, it’s been a great way to be around people going through the same things we are.  Each week, there’s a mix of baby preparation and religious learning going.  It’s been something we look forward to and hopefully that continues! 

Overall, I feel pretty good about everything. Of course, I absolutely have the fear of the unknown, unsure what it will be like when we actually have to start parenting, but that’s natural.  Amanda and I agree that we’ll make mistakes, but that’s all part of the process.  Every kid in the world has had imperfect parents. It’s just about doing the best you can.

On that note, I frequently ask people to give me pieces of parenting advice or more specifically, ask them to share with me one thing they wish they would have known. 

Here are some favorites:

Try to enjoy every moment, because they go by so quickly. 
A big part of this is also to try and enjoy the tough times.  No one likes getting little sleep, but try and appreciate those early days because they fly by.  What’s interesting about this is people point out the kid is constantly evolving, so you have to take to heart each day, because the next one brings about a different version. 

Take it one day at a time.  Yes, this is very much the “coach speak” I don’t enjoy during my job, but it seems to be a good way of looking at this.  Step 1, get through day one, and then after that go to day two, three, four and so one.  It’s simple, but I like it.

You can’t make a mistake, if you’re doing something out of love.
This one follows the path of you’ll make mistakes, but don’t see them as failures, more as learning experiences.

Spend as much time as you can with your kids. This one came from our Rabbi, who basically explained, with as quickly as the kids grow, you’ll want to be a part of as many moments as they can, especially early on. He also added, work and jobs will be there and your best memories often don’t come from work, but with family. Having time with your kids decreases as they become older and start shaping their own lives, so try to take advantage early on. Others have also stressed the importance of putting family before career.  It’s always a tough balance to find, but I already feel like that’s sinking in.

Enjoy helping craft a human being! This came from multiple people who talked about what it’s like once the baby and then eventually, the kid, starts to show their personality.   It’s cool to see how what you’ve tried to instill in them comes through, but how they also have a mind of their own.  On that note, realize the kid is always watching and seeing how you act in the world. 

There’s been many more people talking about the immense love we’ll feel, how a feeling of protection immediately flows over you. Also, everyone tells us to bank as much as sleep as we can now (I promise we’re trying to!). 

We’ll leave it there for now.  Thank you to everyone who has been so supportive. I’m sure we’ll look for your help many times in the adventure ahead :)

Michael

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Wednesday, November 20, 2013

The Great and Wonderful Australia

Australia totally lived up to my expectations. Granted, we only stayed in Sydney and surrounding areas, but that showed how cool the country is.

We got in on Saturday morning and were surprised at how chilly it was.  Our first decision was to visit Bondi Beach. 

With sunshine ahead, we sat in the sand and just relaxed.  Later on, we settled into our apartment, and then finished the night by walking to a local pizza place.

Despite waking up to wet and cold conditions on Sunday, we still had a packed day.

Amanda and I met our friends Kathryn, Christina and Chris for brunch by the beach.  Then we took a great walk to view “Sculptures by the Sea.”  While the exhibit was cool, I was more impressed with the nature sites. 

Afterwards, we met up with another Singapore friend, David Isaac.  I loved the coffee shop we visited - the hot chocolate was awesome. 

From there, we drove to Chris & Kat’s place for a barbecue feast (the start of our love affair with beef on this trip). The night was full of great food and conversation.

Monday, we’d planned to go on a walking tour of Sydney, but as there was more wet weather, it became a museum day.  We visited the Jewish Museum of Sydney and The Rocks Discovery Museum.

Both taught us about how the English made Australia a penal colony. It was cool to see how Jews have made a major impact in Sydney and throughout the country. As for The Rocks museum, it showed again how colonization destroyed native culture - really quite sad.  We really enjoyed learning about that history though.

That night we met another group of Singapore friends, Elliot & Giovana.  They brought their beautiful baby girl to our ribs dinner.  Another great night of conversation, and yes, meat again. (Getting to dinner was adventure, full of missed turns and driving on the Sydney Harbor Bridge)

We spent Tuesday-Thursday in Hunter Valley - one of the main wine producing areas in the country.  The weather and atmosphere were perfect. The sun hit on the vineyards and hill sides.  We had contrasting meals - one night in a fancy schmancy restaurant, the next, going into town to get Thai food! 

The two best activities were  taking a tour of wineries and then visiting the zoo (although, there was an epic nap that gets consideration).  The zoo was very cool as Amanda and I got to pet koalas and also see kangaroos.

We headed back into the city and spent the next couple of days with Kathryn and Chris. 

With the weather being better, we took the walking tour around Sydney.  This was one of the highlights of the trip for sure.  The guide doesn’t charge for the tour, only working off tips.  He was very funny, and the three hour tour did a great job showing off the downtown/harbor area. 

At night, we visited The Great Synagogue in Sydney. It was one of the most beautiful shuls I’ve ever been in.  It felt like Westminster Abbey, but Aussie Jewish style. Sadly, for as beautiful as the shul was, there weren’t many people there, and the service was not our style.

We followed that up with one last meat paradise meal - Hurricanes.  This place is famous for their ribs, and it’s clear why.  We had such a great meal there. 

We went to brunch the next day before heading back to Singapore.

OVERALL NOTES

  • Australia seems like a place Amanda and I could live in.  Although, it definitely comes with a heavy price tag.

  • Driving on the left side of the road wasn’t as bad as I expected.  After the initial airport to apartment drive was over, it became more comfortable.  Still, I kept turning on the wipers when I meant to put on the turn signal.

  • The food there is wonderful.  I could see a new wardrobe being needed if we stayed there too long.

  • The best part of the trip to me was the people. It was so much fun to visit a new country, but getting to see friends made it truly special.

Saturday, March 9, 2013

Amanda and Michael’s Myanmar Top 5



I haven’t done  a travel blog in a while, so wanted to try a different approach with this one.  Instead of going over every detail of our trip, I’ll instead share our top five experiences.

Shwedagon Pagoda

This is probably the iconic image of Burma, and we went to visit on the first day of our trip.  The gold temple is quite a sight to behold.

While we got there at dusk, the visit really became fantastic when the sun went down.  The gold of the temple is sharper with the night sky.

Candy Kids

Throughout our travels in SE Asia, young children have often come up to us asking us to buy things or wanting donations.  Amanda and I feel it’s better to give them something of use rather than money, which may not really go to the kids. So, this time around we finally smarted up, and brought with us granola bars.

The best part is one group of kids came up to Amanda (which by the way, happened very rarely), she gave them the granola bars and then they ran off saying they got candy! I wonder what they thought when they realized they’d been tricked by a nutritious cereal bar.

Bagan Sunset


There are about 2,000 Buddhist temples in the city of Bagan.  We visited quite a few during the day, and then at sunset, we climbed up one to get a better view. 


The height really helped to show that as far as the eye could see, it was one temple after another.

Inle Market


This is in my top 5 vacation things we’ve done while living over here. Inle Lake itself is very impressive with floating gardens, houses on stilts, and beautiful temples. I loved the market the most.

We woke up early, got in our little boat, and ventured over to a market that’s open only once a week.  Farmers and villagers from the surrounding towns come early to sell their fruits, vegetables, candies, etc. 

Unlike many of the markets we’ve been to in SE Asia, this one really felt authentic. It wasn’t half for locals and half to sell cheap knick knacks for tourists.  Many of the villagers wear traditional tribal outfits with head dresses and long pants.  I just loved the place.


Yangon Synagogue

We finished our trip back in Yangon.  On Friday night, we visited the old synagogue that was built in English colonial times.  It really reminded me of the shul in Singapore.  The biggest difference is that this one is now almost exclusively used for show, as opposed to use.  The community there is down to about 20 people.  It’s great that the synagogue is still being taken care of, and we loved getting to be there on a Friday night.






Monday, October 8, 2012

Butterfly Kisses

There are moments in life when you know you’re exactly in the place you’re supposed to be.  This trip back to Dallas was full of those moments.

Back in May, Amanda and I decided we’d surprise our families by coming home for Rosh Hashanah.  Over the next couple of months, a lot of little events started to come into play. 

Most importantly, my Mom set a date for a surgery to fix the mitral valve in her heart - September 18th, three days after our arrival.

Leading up to the surgery, I think besides my mom and dad, most of us in the family weren’t overly concerned.  While there’s always a risk with heart surgery, all the reports and information I’d read made it seem like a fairly routine procedure.

Well, long story short, the valve repair went fine, but the right side of Mom’s heart didn’t respond well to the surgery.  The doctor described her as critical.  My mind kept racing - no way, this isn’t right.  Critical? She was supposed to have surgery and then pop back up in a week or so.  Critical? Isn’t that the term I hear on TV dramas?

It led to some very scary moments and days, but for the most part, I always had faith that the doctors would figure it out and that Mama would get things turned around.

For the next 10 days, she was under sedation as the medical staff threw “the kitchen sink” at her.  They were playing a constant balance game to make sure that she was getting better.

This is where I feel like it was a blessing to be home.  How would I have been able to handle this in Singapore? I’d be checking my phone every five minutes.  I needed to be there with my family.

And this was the moment I didn’t want to miss.  Friday, September 28, 2012.  My mom’s 61st birthday, and she delivered her own present. Mama was able to wake up, get the breathing tube out and get her body working on its own.

We hear the term “heart” all the time in sports, well, talk about showing Texas size heart.  It’d be tough to make the script any better. 

With the understanding of my office in Singapore, I was able to extend my stay for an extra week.  It was incredible to watch her get better day by day.  Each time there’d be something new - more talking or being able to pick up and eat blue berries by herself.  Small things that most of us take for granted, but for Mama, they’re giant steps on the road to recovery. 

While this trip was spent mostly at the hospital, that actually afforded me more time with the family. There was still time for some great barbeque, mum making with the Rudes and maybe the highlight, my first ever eagle on a golf course. 

As good as an eagle is, nothing will compare to seeing my mom awake again.  It’s tough to feel so helpless.  This is the woman that raised me, and it’s difficult to just sit aside while she’s asleep.

Seeing her talking, even if it is struggled because of a sore throat, lifts a huge worry.  She’s getting better day by day, but she still has a long way to go.

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Anyone that knows Mom can tell you she doesn’t lack for showing affection.  Whoever you are, you’re the perfect size for hugging - we’ve all heard that right? Well, in the hospital bed it’s much harder for her to wrap her arms around you, but we shared in of our oldest traditions, butterfly kisses.

A rare way to tell someone you love them with all your heart.

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Turning a Quarter

25 Years.

When I think of a 25-year-old athlete, words like prime, quickness and future come to mind. 

Well, I’m not an athlete, but I do think I’m quick witted in a prime place in my life, and I can only hope the future is just as bright.

25 Years.

There’s so many milestones to think of in the first 25 years of life.  Let’s start with birth. Okay, let’s quickly move past that eye opening experience ;)  Then there’s learning to walk, talk, play, learn, love.  There’s Bar Mitzvah, driving test, high school and college graduations, first job...and then for some early achievers, maybe even a wedding.

25 Years.

My first quarter century in this world has been an absolute whirlwind - one that I feel extremely grateful to be chosen for.  From Dallas to Missouri to Singapore, life has never been dull in any place. 

25 Years.

This year, I’ve seen so much that makes me feel fortunate for my lot in life.  We often nitpick to find what’s wrong in our lives, instead of enjoying what’s in front of us. 

In May, Amanda and I visited Siem Reap, Cambodia - a very significant trip for us. Yes, we saw the historical sites, but what I can never forget will be our visit of the present landscape. 

Taking a tour to the outskirts of the city centre, we saw the shacks people are living in. It’s a place where daily life is a struggle. Yet, the sight that will always stick out to me was watching a group of kids play on the river bank.  There was pure joy - a love of life that was clear in how much fun they were having.  Here are young people that maybe have no idea what situation they’re in....or maybe they have it all figured out.  Even in the face of a harsh reality, the kids just live for the moment.

The Next 25 Years.

Each day is not given, so it’s presumptive to talk about what the next 25 years would be like.

I can only hope there are moments of joy like the first quarter century has provided.  I can only hope to be continued to be surrounded by loving family, friends and a supportive wife.  I can only hope to live knowing that time shouldn’t be wasted.



I’d like to send a deep and heartfelt thank you to all of my family and friends from across the globe.  It’s much easier to enjoy life when there are always people on your side.


L’Chaim!
Michael